We’ve all heard about “Tiger Moms” and “Helicopter Parenting.” Now there is a new parenting technique to add to the list of troubling parent trends. It is called “Snow Plow” parenting.
According to Today’s Parent:
Snowplow parents may also micro-manage when it comes to diet and education, but they do so with an eye on the future. They want to remove any pain or difficulties from their children’s paths so that their kids can succeed. They are the parents sitting in the principal’s office asking about extra courses or for special allowances for their child. According to educators, there is a sense of entitlement to snowplowers: They blame the school when things go wrong and never accept anything less than first place for their child.
“Snow Plow” parents will do anything to destroy obstacles in their child’s path. Everything that stands in the way of their child’s future success must be removed and sometimes with extreme prejudice.
Some actions are relatively tame, like baking a coach’s favorite cupcakes and delivering them to his home. Other actions are not, like contemplating murder. Wanda Holloway can attest to that. She conspired to have the mother of her daughter’s cheerleading rival killed.
However, some parents think mild snowplowing is appropriate. Emma Waverman, writer for Today’s Parent, states:
But snowplow parenting may be the one for me. I can let my kids walk to school on their own because the research tells me it will contribute to their independence and self-esteem. But if the school doesn’t recognize my special snowflake’s abilities, then they will hear from me. (I’m pretty sure last year’s science teacher hides from me now, after my deserving child didn’t win the science award.) I will write notes to excuse them from their homework if I don’t agree with the approach. And yes, I do drive them to school on really cold days. But I’m not all in. I’m OK with them experiencing some failures at school or not being on the school sports teams. I do make their lives a little easier—often in ways that they don’t notice—but I won’t be writing their university applications for them.
So, are you or someone you know a “Snow Plow” parent?
Take a look at the list below to find out!
1. Changing Classes – If a parent has approached their child’s school to have his or her class changed due to lack of friends, they may be a “Snow Plow” parent. It is good for kids to make new friends.
2. Bribes to the Coach – If bribes to the coach for placement on a team or more play time are something one may consider, they may have snowplowing tendencies
3. Conflicts with the Referee – There are parents who yell at referees and umpires about wrong calls against their child or child’s team. This is a sign of snowplowing.
4. Homework Help – A little bit of help on a homework assignment is okay, but if a parent is doing everything, that’s snowplowing.
5. Changing Grades – Parents who try to get their child’s grades changed are “snow plow” parents. This is especially true if they try to do this when the child is in college. Some parents will even hack into a school system and try to change the grades themselves.
To learn more about “Snow Plow” parenting, take a look at the video below. It does come from a Christian program, but the professional Andrew Blackwood has a lot to say about proper and improper parenting.
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